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The Pants Party
05-24-2007, 04:00 AM
Ok, I'm guessing many of you knew I had a baby on the way, due in late August. Well, God decided we shouldn't wait that long and on Monday my wife got very sick, and Tuesday morning they got our baby girl out. I'm home from the hospital for a bit and wanted to shout out to the world that I'm a father and in case people have noticed I haven't been around as much, let everyone know what's up. I'm going to copy/paste two livejournal posts I made to inform my friends so I don't have to type it all again, so here's basically what happened:

Ok, so I'm sure most people have heard what's been going on with Jillian, myself and our new baby girl Chloe Leeann. I'm home from the hospital for a little bit to take care of a few things and clear my head a bit so I'll try to get as much info as possible in here quick before I get back to Jillian and Chloe. Monday morning Jillian apparently had a seizure (I didn't witness it), and luckily I had stayed up until 5am checking on her because she was feeling very dizzy and sick (plus I was playing Crackdown, but ignore that), so I had called off work to take her to the clinic in the morning and was home at the time, heard her breathing very heavy from downstairs. She was bodily responsive to me when I came upstairs, but she just seemed to be half-asleep, though after pouring water on her and screaming for her to wake up, she would not respond verbally, so I called 911. They go there and after about ten minutes and four guys holding her down were able to get vitals and get her somewhat stable, she became aware of what was going on and who was there with her. They then took her to St. Joe's in Ann Arbor where her OBGYN is. She got slightly worse but stayed stable through the night, however they were pumping a lot of IVs and fluids in here, not much of which was coming out in her urine, so they figured if they waited longer it would start to build up in her lungs. Officially what she had was "eclampsia" which is when the placenta is bad and the body tries to reject it, the only cure being to remove the placenta, aka deliver the baby. This morning at about 10.30 they decided it was time, and by 11.30 she was in surgery and our daughter was "born" at 12.01pm. She came at 27 weeks, weighed only 1lb. 15ozs and was 13" long. She is completely formed and breathing on a ventilator tube down her throat, which is apparently set to a low setting, which they say is a very good sign... she's a fighter. She is very active and can open and close her hands, wiggle everything and even open her eyes at times. Jillian is also doing very well, though her blood pressure is high and her kidneys aren't working all that great yet. They hope to have her better and discharged by Friday morning or Saturday at the latest. Chloe however will most likely be in the hospital until Jillian's original due date of late August... myself, I'm past freaking out and finally calm, just trying to keep all my family and friends up-to-date since I'm the only one who can talk directly with the doctors. I need to take a shower and get back to the hospital, but I wanted to let everyone know how things are going and thank you all for all the messages on my phone, keep em coming (pun intended). Special thanks to Joe for being my messenger over the last day. I hope to see everyone soon, and within a week or two if you guys want to make a trip out to the hospital to see Chloe we can certainly do that. Love you all and thanks for everything.

AlanSince I made that post last night, Jillian has improved tremendously. Her kidneys kicked back in, they have taken her off almost all her IVs (except sugar water, which is just standard), though they are still having her take pills for pain and blood pressure. Chloe was doing amazing last night, and they even extubated her and put her on something akin to a fish tank pump that kind of just bubbles and helps the air move through her lungs, rather than forcing it.. however, she got a little worse this morning and they intubated her again, so it's doing most of her breathing for her. Aside from that both mom and baby are doing amazing. A nurse said if she had to have a baby at 27 weeks, she would want it to be Chloe, so that has to say something of how amazing things have turned out for such a horrible situation.

Here's a picture of our baby girl. You can see how small she is compared to my hand, it's sort of ridiculous how little she is, but she's beautiful and she's very active.
Chloe LeeAnn Pettit (http://www.thezissousociety.org/chloe.jpg)Any thoughts (and prayers if you're that type) would be appreciated. I probably won't be able to check this thread for another day or two since I'm only home for a bit here to get my wife some stuff and take care of a few bills, but I'll try to get back with an update soon.

Shaaady Souljah
05-24-2007, 04:11 AM
i hope everything turns out well for all of you. i will of course pray for all of you...

i will be watching for an update from ya soon; don't leave us hanging...

Dirty Dee KC
05-24-2007, 04:46 AM
yeah man i hope everything turns out good for you and your baby is healthy, prayers.

trunk187
05-24-2007, 04:52 AM
i hope every thing works out for you and i will be praying for you and your little girl

Nothingface
05-24-2007, 04:53 AM
congrates and good luck with everything.

Im a Manatee
05-24-2007, 07:00 AM
27 Weeks? Holy Shit!!! I was 2 weeks premature, and my brothers always tease because I made mom have 3 days of surgery after I cam e out. Go to the hospital, and tell your wife you love her.

Joey Jeckel
05-24-2007, 07:41 AM
Wow she is so small, congrats. You might not be able to bring her home for a while, but she'll be fine. My brother-in-law was 4 months premmy, he's 18 now :) All the best...

bdg7884
05-24-2007, 09:10 AM
WOW! She is so tiny... I hope everything turns out for the best! I will be praying for your family! Best of luck :)

Minty
05-24-2007, 09:39 AM
Good luck with it mate - she'll be fine

Haly
05-24-2007, 11:10 AM
Congrats :) Hope everything goes well for your family :)

F089H
05-24-2007, 01:15 PM
Hey Pants,I was born at St.Joesph's in Ann Arbor as well my 2 younger Brothers..There was a similar situation with my 2nd brother..3 months Premature,Cerebral Palsy...The doctors said he wouldn't make it,Much less walk and here he is playing Football(TE,quick as all hell!)and running Track!I'm praying for you,You're going to make it through this.

Congrats on being a father....
*Plink!*
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WildManWiles01
05-24-2007, 03:28 PM
Congratulations on your new addition to the family. I will put your little girl in our prayers, but I am sure everything will turn out. Like you said, shes a fighter. Keep us updated... and once again, Congratulations!

angry
05-24-2007, 03:31 PM
My heart goes out to you m8 i haope that the baby is healthy ...

ThrillKillBill
05-24-2007, 05:48 PM
congrats dude, your entering the best and worst years of your life. everything she does will fill you with so much emotion but just remember to breath before you react. she's beautiful and she'll be just fine, i was pre-mature by 3 weeks, spent 2 weeks on the incabator (don't know its spelling) and i grew up without issues. when i was born my ear size was half the size of my ear-lobe is now. LoL!

keep us updated friend

magictroll
05-24-2007, 06:02 PM
I'm praying for your situation man!!-

Rocket
05-24-2007, 06:15 PM
CONGRATS!!! I hope that everything turns out for the best man I really do...

SarkeBeeley
05-24-2007, 06:24 PM
Congratulations!!! Good luck to all three of you, we're thinking of you!

Frakus
05-24-2007, 07:58 PM
Pants wow man I am wishing you the best. My son was just born at St. Joes 4 weeks ago in Ann arbor and they have some fine doctors there and I hope all the best for you. Take care of your family and I hope everything turns out for the best.


Best wishes Frakus

aka Jim

JonnyC VT
05-24-2007, 10:45 PM
Alan, wow.

Not gunna lie, I got a little emotional reading your story and seeing Chloe, but that's not a big to-do since I get emotional watching Walker Texas Ranger. We're all pulling for you here, we're all family here. You can get on and update us or send out a message on live. I'm glad to hear Jillian is doing well...

Everything will be fine with some time...:)

Bax x360a
05-24-2007, 11:21 PM
Congratulations mate must be a very proud moment in your life. I dont pray but you and your family will be in my thoughts, hope everything works out well and im sure it will

codedigital
05-25-2007, 01:48 PM
I had some issues with my second child.

Though she wasn't born too early (only a month)...she was born with Laryngomalacia. For 4 months she could barely breathe. I mean it sounded like she was drowning all the time.

So I can understand how hard things must be at the moment. Becoming a father is one of the greatest gifts in this world.

Crash
05-25-2007, 02:33 PM
That is unfortunate and I wish the three of you good luck. Sounds like things are going good, and I will pray for them to continue to do so.

x McGrim x
05-25-2007, 05:49 PM
I'm glad that they're both healthy.

xRogue 5x
05-25-2007, 07:00 PM
Hey just wanted to tell you that you and your new family will be in my prayers as you go through on of the many trials that life throws at you. I know how stressful being a new dad can be. As I too have a son, It's a very trying and scary time. It's times like these that we are reminded of just how fragile and precious life can be. From your words it sounds like your daughter is a fighter and has a strong spirit. While I nor anyone can predict what the future will bring I hope it brings good news and joy for your newfound family.

Again my heart is with you because I know what a crazy time it is for you and how scary it can be. I was in the hospital for many hours and all seemed to be going well for us. But then they said that the little guy had actually gone number 2 while still inside. And it would be extremely bad if he breathed any of it in. And they weren't sure if he had suffered any ill effects from it yet. I had never been so scared in my whole life. The thought of loosing my son before I even got a chance to no him shook me to the core. I went to the chapel area to be alone with my thoughts and to find some comfort and peace. I have never really been a big religious type but its amazing how in times of trial how quickly one remembers the lord. In that chapel I prayed as I have never done so before. I pleaded that my little one be spared and if neccessary I would exchange places with him if thats what it would take. As I communicated my thoughts with god a profound peace and comfort came upon me the likes of which I had never experienced. I felt as if all would be well for me and that it would alright. I felt the pressence of my grandfather whom had passed away years before.

My son turned out alright. And is now a complete handful and both a joy and a blessing. Use this time to talk to your father in heaven. He will be there for you as he always has been. You know the love you feel for your daughter. If you love your child that much, how much more so does god love you his child? He will answer your prayers and will give you comfort in this your hour of need.

I hope and pray that all goes well for you. My thoughts are with you and your family. My message inbox and chat line are always open if you ever need anything. From one father to another your supporter David Baxley.

The Pants Party
05-28-2007, 09:53 PM
Well I want to thank everyone for all their thoughts, prayers and support - it all seems to be working. My wife finally came home today after an entire week in the hospital. Her blood pressure is still sort of high, so she's on two pills for that, as well as two pills for pain from the C-Section, so she's still very tired and out of it, but at least she's home.

My daughter is also doing very well, though every day is something new. She's had jaundice, failing kidneys, open heart valves, low blood pressure and swelling, among other things, but the amazing nurses, doctors and other amazing staff has handled each problem as it comes and made her better each time. She lost a little weight (down to 1lb., 9ozs), but overall she is doing well. It's going to be a long 3 months until she can come home, but we are all hopeful.

Thanks again to everyone, and keep us in thought/prayer if you can.

Cyrex
05-28-2007, 10:18 PM
while good luck with you wife and child, you know that there are a bunch of people praying that everything turns out right


a parents friends baby was born 22 weeks premature, he was only 7" long and the parents could hold him is their plams without him overlapping anywhere, he weighed less than a pound,

while now that he is 12 he is 5'10" and weighs just a little over 160..... ya big kid